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Know What Is Affecting Your Mental Peace

There is a difference between a disagreement and an argument. A disagreement is when two people have different perspectives but still respect each other’s views. It’s a conversation where both sides may not align, but there’s room for understanding. An argument, however, is when emotions take control—where words become weapons, and the goal shifts from resolution to dominance.

Say both words out loud: disagreement and argument—who comes to mind?

Now, consider these words:

• Good listener – Are you truly listening to others, or just waiting for your turn to speak? Who in your life makes you feel heard, not just acknowledged?

• Ever present – Who in your life is always there, even when it’s inconvenient?

• Love – Do you love people the way they need to be loved, or the way that’s comfortable for you? Who loves you in a way that feels safe, not just familiar?

• The glue – Are you the one holding everything together, or do you rely on someone else to do it? Who keeps things from falling apart when no one else can?

• One call—that’s all – Who is the one person you know will pick up, no matter what?

• Authentic – Who in your life is unapologetically real, no matter the audience?

• Truth teller – Do you tell people what they need to hear or what they want to hear? Who in your life challenges you with honesty, even when it’s uncomfortable?

• Manipulator – Who is manipulating you?

• Bridge burner – Who in your life burns their bridges wherever they go, never looking back?

Who are you to others? What do others see you as? And does that align with who you believe yourself to be?

More importantly—who does God know you to be?

Now, think. Who has hurt you the most during an argument? Was it the words they used, the way they dismissed you, or the realization that they never truly valued you in the first place?

On the other hand, who have you learned from during a disagreement? Some people teach through conflict—not by tearing down, but by stretching your perspective. Have you had those conversations that made you rethink, rather than regret?

Now, ask yourself—who in your life have you had to mentally fight to stay around? Have your arguments with them crossed the line—disrespecting your family, your values, your boundaries? And if so, why do you still stay?

Your mental peace is not something to be negotiated. Pay attention to who fuels your spirit and who drains it. Recognizing the difference between a moment of tension and a pattern of destruction is the key to protecting it.

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